Adoption and the Fish Ladder

My sometime favourite piece of advice  in life reads something like: “This Life is a journey – you will take two steps forward and one step back – what ever you do , don’t give up or rather –  I have handled everything that has come my way so far and I will handle this…

Reading Matters: The Fish Ladder and Ynys Las

June and a review of the Fish Ladder by Katharine Norbury (Bloomsbury Publishing) And I’m remembering a time with my first husband out on the Llyn Peninsula – this book (the Fish Ladder)  has made me think of that. We were young together – we met at school on the stage in a  school play,…

The Un-Birthday

I chose not to send you a birthday card. But I still thought about you all day. I thought about Mum, back in the day and her fierce disapproval that I had chosen this quiet protest. “Oh Kate,” she would have said, the rest left unspoken. Fuck You. This morning I see you are in…

Meeting Jenny

1pm and I am waiting in my car to meet her. I am watching for her by the door. She doesn’t come. The clock moves forward and I wonder, momentarily what to do. I do feel however that she will be there – it’s just that, once again, I need to find her. I wait…

Reading Matters: Warming the Stone Child

“Whenever there is adoption, there is its corollary, abandonment” Meredith Resnick, Psychology Today This sound book ( I can find no written word copy) is extraordinarily powerful for those of us ready to listen. Depth When we drop a small pebble into the river, the smooth, unspectacular surface penetrates down, down, down beneath the surface…

Reading Matters “I Am” by Michelle Scally-Clarke

(In which the author and me explore some painful family memories, talk about adoption, feel empowered by dual heritage and learn to sing our song) This was a tough read for me. No point pretending: where lives intersect there can be a curious pain. But don’t let my experience challenge you, above all, I loved…

Adoption Story

Yesterday I found out from a complete stranger that my birth father’s name placed my paternal heritage as 100% Kashmiri. I am standing in my office at work watching the clouds scud by in the rain and wind – talking on the telephone to a complete stranger and I let my guard down. Knowledge is…